Alone v. Lonely – “I’ve always enjoyed being alone. My two autistic kids feel the same. And I never thought much about it until I was older and it was brought to my attention by non-autistic people.” S.R. Salas
This link connects to a post that speaks specifically to how shifting perspective just a little can change the world a lot. very important when autism is present in our lives. Would be nice if this were part of everyone’s world-view 🙂
Compliance by ThAutcast
This blog post is important for everyone, especially for neurotypicals and neurotypical parents of autistic children (heck, and non-autistic children as well).
Autistic people already know how important it is to NOT make compliance the most important piece of education for autistic children. “Why?” some of you may ask? The most benign reason is that when compliance is the focus, the individual is at risk of sacrificing who they are for who they think people want them to be. The most dangerous reason is abuse – emotional, physical, sexual. When compliance comes before all else, how can you say “NO!”?
Somehow, we parents of autistic AND neurotypical children need to, through building MUTUAL respect, help our kids discover and become the best possible people they are. Raising compliant children is easy – it’s based on fear, intimidation and superficial thinking. Thoughtful, responsive, investigative, respectful parenting – basically modeling the behaviors we want our children to have – takes a LOT of work, but it’s worth the effort when the result is a strong, healthy, safe, confident child.
I am a Star Trek fan. I have always been a ST fan. I have, in my mid-40’s, a fleet of pewter ST ships from all shows prominently displayed in my living room curio cabinet. I read a Star Trek book EVERY weekend as a kid. I had a crush on Spock as a kid. I can do the Vulcan hand signal with BOTH hands, and can raise my right eyebrow by itself. Continue reading
Autism and Puberty: What I wish I would have known
As the mother of a child a few years away from puberty (but not that far), I worry that I will give not enough or too much information. My son is very literal, very factual, very science oriented. He drew RIBS and NERVES on a stick figure in kindergarten when he learned about them from a medical picture book we had at home. Puberty is confusing enough when your neurotypical – add in social confusion and literal thinking on top of that and the prospect is even more daunting.
This blog post is from the autistic female perspective, but it speaks to the need for knowledge/information that all our kids should have, beyond “don’t do it till you’re married”. I fully intend for my child to know, understand and respect his body and the bodies of others. I want him to be safe and I want to spare him as much confusion as possible.
Another autism Christmas song, dedicated to M at Invisible Strings, in honor of his Holiday get-together post. Somebody out there is having a “normal” Christmas gathering, but I don’t know them personally! LOL
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